From: Louise <firstname.lastname@example.org>
To: donna laframboise<email@example.com>
Date: Sat, 17 Mar 2001 12:02:35 -0400
[Itappears as if an email titled 'the last word :)' was originally sent by thereporter and that Ms. Malenfant replied to her by hitting the"forward" button instead of "reply". (Email programs don'tallow one to forward unsent messages of one's own in that manner. Oddly, however, this "Fw" emailcontains no content from such an original; that content must have been erasedby one of these two persons.) If so, this would be a sixth known email from thereporter to her.]
I am wondering why I am so horrified by this book whileyou are not, and
what I have come up with is that I have read the entirething. [Whether thereporter saw no grounds at this point to attack me over my book because shehadn't yet read the five pages, or whether her anger at those pages developedonly after encouragement from Malenfant, would be revealing to know.] Yousee, the
first time I read it, it was so filled with mash that,although I knew it
troubled me, I didn't exactly know why.
slowly, I realized that the tenets FC holds regardingchild sex and child
porn are spread in bits and pieces, small ones,throughout the entire book,
so it doesn't have the big impact, and it also doesn'toverwhelm the whole
Please don't think that Icontinue this discussion because of some desire to
get it published, because that is not my reason forbeing, or for being
concerned about this little treatise.
sexualabuse for the past decade, I know too well that the tenets described
hereare the underpinning rationalizations commonly used to legitimize
them,stopping child sex is bad, stopping child sex hurts children, stopping
childsex causes pedophillia, coercing children into sex is no worse than
stoppingchildren from having sex, and finally, we should teach children to
havesex, and show them porn, so that they will not be deprived of having
orgasmslater in life. [Ihope it is clear how these claims distort my words.]
A ratherpainful little summary, and my quotes back
up each of these ideas, when you put all of his scatteredlittle bon mots
together in one place. Add to this FC's inability to bring himself to say
that any kind of child sex is bad, even coercive sex isonly bad in our
"present social conditions", and what you haveis a peon to childhood sex.
When I ran these selected passages by a prominent lawprofessor, he took the
time to let me know that he felt the same way about thisbook, and he has
also studied child sexual abuse extensively in hiscareer. Perhaps that is
why he and I are horrified by this book.
A final word relating to your comments on the phone:
children touch themselves and explore their own bodies ina natural way in
childhood, there is a big difference between thisbehaviour and the
masturbation that arises following a child's"awakening" - the latter child
who has been introduced to sex will demonstrate knowledgeof the mechanics
of orgasm, the dedicated friction required to achieve it,as FC would say,
and this is different, far different than the naturaltouching of the
average child. Children must be taught the mechanics of orgasm, they do not
come by that knowledge naturally.
of sexual orgasm, it is one of the prime indicators thatthey have been
awakened to sexuality. Any expert on child sexual abuse will say this.
not talking about teens, here, I'm talking about kids tenand under.
[Asmy book says nothing whatever about orgasm in children, this passageillustrates how wildly Ms. Malenfant
readthings into what I actually wrote.]
The hard and indisputable fact is, that when a child displayssexual
knowledge and the genital fixation consistent with havingbeen "awakened",
they become vulnerable prey to other pedophiles, who lookfor these children
in their travels. That's all I will say on the subject, and I hope you can
appreciate that I will not stand by and allow a personwho holds such views
to continue to represent the constituency of the falselyaccused. With or
without the media, his days as a leader in the father'srights movement are
Now that we have cleared that up, I am giving greatthought to the idea that
these ideas are in his book, though, and they do make mevery sick. It fits
right in that Ferrel would have so many disturbed casesfloating around him
and mixed in with the solid falsely accused cases; since
distinctionbetween the sexually deviant and the falsely accused, this now
makes perfect sense to me.
battle; I tried to walk away, but after several months,my conscience and my
duty to the desperate people in family court would notlet me. The recent
election was just the absolute limit for me.
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