MOVEMENT FOR THE ESTABLISHMENT OF REAL GENDER EQUALITY
We stand for the principle of equal rights and equal dignity for all people, and in particular for members of both sexes. Recent changes have moved society toward equality in areas where women have long been discriminated against, though more remains to be done in this regard. Men have also suffered various kinds or discrimination because of their gender, and these are no less harmful to their wellbeing. There cannot be real equality until both sexes are freed from oppressive stereotypes and unfair treatment. The purpose of this organization is to work in public and in private for greater understanding and equality between the sexes. All of our official pronouncements will affirm our commitment to full equality, and on any issue where either "side" is not being given adequate consideration, we will attempt to promote a more balanced view. All men and women who share these views and goals are cordially invited to join with us.
I- Resolution on Gender Roles
Whatever value they may once have had, in today's technological and overpopulated world, rigid external gender roles are obsolete. In fact, strict role expectations have done vast amounts of harm to men and women alike. Individuals differ greatly from one another in their needs, tastes and abilities, hence moral equality demands that each person have the freedom to be different.
Be it therefore resolved that neither of the traditional sex roles, nor a single "androgynous" one, be enforced by law or social pressure; all three, and others as well, are worthy of respect if freely chosen.
II- Resolution on Social Rights and Responsibilities
Both sexes have suffered under traditional social restrictions, and both have special needs and problems. Moreover, individuals of both sexes have important abilities needed by society, and all are indebted to society for what they have received from it.
Be it therefore resolved that all the rights and responsibilities of citizenship, such as public office and military service, be regarded as belonging equally to both sexes, on the basis of individual ability to carry them out.
Be it further resolved that there be legal and educational programs to discover the needs and ameliorate the special problems of both sexes; e.g., government councils on both men's and women's issues, both women's and men's studies in universities.
III- Resolution on Economic Equality in General
The principles of equal access to jobs and equal pay for equal work are a matter of simple justice. Women have historically been denied rightful opportunities in employment, and they must be given full opportunity to develop themselves and seek fulfillment. Sometimes, men have also been denied equal rights to employment; moreover, the obligation of being employed, so as to be the sole provider for women and children, has often been harmful to the physical and emotional health of men.
Be it therefore resolved that continuing efforts be made to eliminate discrimination on the basis of sex in paid employment.
Be it further resolved that in economic matters where burdens or benefits are statistical, one single method of determining premiums be applied to both sexes. For example, if men pay the same amounts as women toward (and receive the same monthly benefits from) pensions even though on average they don't live as long, they should pay the same amounts as women for life or automobile insurance.
IV- Resolution on Economic Equality in Marriage
The traditional undervaluation of unpaid labour in the home, and the absence of laws governing shared labour between spouses, have often in the past cheated wives of what was rightfully theirs. Similarly, the traditional attitudes that it is a man's job to provide, and that he must pay for a woman's companionship, have also led to many injustices.
Be it therefore resolved that childbearing and childrearing activities in a marriage be considered of equal importance to working outside the home.
Be it further resolved that all divorce settlements be based on a realistic assessment of actual contributions of money and labour in each individual case, rather than on economic need or on an automatic assumption of equal contributions.
V- Resolution on Equality in Parenting
The traditional social roles of man as provider and woman as nurturer have caused great injustice regarding both the rights and the responsibilities of both mothers and fathers. In particular, men have to varying degrees been denied the opportunity and the obligation to nurture their children.
Be it therefore resolved that continuing efforts be made to change social attitudes in regard to this vital concern.
Be it further resolved that any arrangements made for parental-care leave, day care and financial support to single parents be equally available to members of both sexes.
Traditional attitudes concerning divorce have resulted in a situation where women are left with the sole burden of childrearing, men are denied the rewards of parenting and left with only its financial burdens, and children are denied the right to be nurtured by both parents.
Be it therefore resolved that there be a legal presumption in favour of joint custody, with social means employed to help it work. And, where this is not possible, that there be no discrimination on the basis of sex regarding the opportunity to gain sole custody or the responsibility to provide child support; and that there be humane and reasonable enforcement of support payments, of access to the children by non-custodial parents, and of accountability in the use of support monies by custodial parents.
In cases of unwed pregnancy, a special biological burden falls on the woman. But under traditional laws, unwed fathers have no legal rights, only legal obligations.
Be it therefore resolved that unmarried fathers have a responsibility to share the burdens of unplanned pregnancy, with emotional and financial support wherever possible.
Be it further resolved that whatever legal rights unmarried women are to have to claim or to renounce legal parenthood of a child shall be matched by corresponding rights for unmarried men.
VI- Resolution on Sexuality and Intimate Relationships
Many differences between the two genders in regard to sex and love are merely the product of social conditioning and social expectations. Some of these differences cause conflicts and misunderstandings, which can best be overcome by eliminating the social differentiation. But equality doesn't always mean sameness. There is evidence of biological differences between the sexes, on average, in regard to the need for sex (including the ways in which sexual desire is stimulated) and the need for love and affection. These differences also make it hard for men and women to understand each other, and have long led to serious conflicts. But the differences are not the fault of either group, and neither set of needs is more noble than the other.
Be it therefore resolved that there be greater efforts toward tolerance and understanding between the sexes in regard to these matters, and equal acceptance of the needs and wants of both in all laws and social conventions.
VII- Resolution on Harm and Harmful Behaviour
One person's safety and dignity are as important as another's, and no one should suffer the stigma of harmful behaviour by others who happen to be of the same race or gender.
Be it therefore resolved that there be equal public concern for harm suffered by a woman or a man, either actual or in fictional portrayals, be it over sexual assault (suffered more often by women), or non-sexual assault (suffered more often by men), or any other kind of physical or emotional harm.
Be it further resolved that there be equal abhorrence of and punishment for comparable crimes committed by men and by women, be they cases of sexual assault (committed more often by men), or child battery (committed more often by mothers), or assault on a spouse (committed equally often by husbands and wives, but much more often physically harmful to wives), or any other antisocial behaviour.
Be it finally resolved that there be adequate protection of the rights of those accused of wrongful behaviour, be they men or women.
VIII- Resolution on Stereotyping and Sexist Attitudes
Gender stereotypes are harmful to both sexes, and neither gender is immune to having sexist attitudes. Furthermore, neither sex has received all the benefits or all the burdens of the traditional social system. Finally, no individuals alive today are to blame for creating the gender inequalities we have inherited--though all must be encouraged to help end them. In solving the problems that face them both, men and women are basically interdependent, not adversaries.
Be it therefore resolved that all men and women renounce stereotypes and sexist attitudes, self-seeking policies and simple-minded blaming, in favour of good will, mutual concern, and cooperation in the task of promoting equality.
Adopted March 30, 1987
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